Q: I would like to learn more about your private consultations, particularly those pertaining to weight-loss. – JH, Washington
A: A consultation takes place on the phone and lasts for approximately an hour and ten minutes. During our talk, we custom-tailor a new approach for you regarding your relationship to your body. – V.K.
Q: I can’t afford a private consultation right now, although I’m sure you have valuable information to share. I have been working hard for several years to overcome self-destructive compulsions and to live well. Maybe my money situation will change in the near future and I can make an appointment then. – NM, California
A: I have found that our relationships to our bodies and our relationships to money exactly reflect our relationships to the love we have for ourselves. You might like to come up with ten ways you can feel love for yourself and then make them your practice today. Bon Appetite! -V.K.
Q: I’m eating no-no foods by the fistful. Help! -JW, California
A: There are no ‘no-no’ foods. There is choice. Your power is in this moment. What is your choice? You’ll haveHäagen-Dasz moments and broccoli moments. Enjoy them all or don’t choose them the next moment. No shame. No blame. No guilt. No cellulite. – V.K.
How to Write a Movie in 21 Days
Q: I have a rewriting question. I’m growing and changing and then I reread my script and need to do a rewrite, but feel that I’ve outgrown the story. My new draft is due with my producer, but I’m not interested in the story as it stands anymore. It has been awful trying to figure out my next steps. Any advice would be much, much appreciated. – Love,P.S., Toronto
A: Of course you outgrow it as you go. That is the point. Allow yourself to grow as much as your characters are growing and watch how alive that makes you and your script. Remember there’s no such thing as a fictitious character. The action-adventure is all for you to come to your own next understanding of yourself. Keep writing the truth. Grow your story; grow yourself. I have every confidence in you. -V.K.
R: Your advice on the rewrite is absolutely on target! -Love, P.S.
Q: How does one invoke the creative spirit? I’m all for rituals and am trying to find a ritual around writing that allows me to write from the highest space in myself. Help! -GS, California
A: Actually the highest space in yourself is the space that feels scared, and struggling, and without confidence. The highest space is the honest place that is exactly where you are. Write that and watch how your feelings transpire. That’s making art of life. You’d be amazed how many writers call me with anxiety. They have heroes in their scripts who are going through something harrowing and they have a perfectly good fear in their own hearts to try and write it, then the first thing they want to do is get rid of the fear. You created it in the first place so that you could write from there. Do not separate yourself from your own juicy human emotions. You are in the business of having this feeling in yourself and then you are to pour it all over the page.
You ask about rituals:
When one of my writer clients feels a new novel coming on, he vacuums and the action and the noise starts getting him ready for focus. Another client stops all the clocks in his office, goes in, and doesn’t come out until it’s done. I love a technique developed by Dr. Claudia Rose in which you invoke the spirit of your project and have a visual, visceral experience with it as a living force. Let the spirit of your script show you the story. – V.K.
Fame and Fortune
Q: Will fame change me? -CC, California
A: Do you want it to change you?
A: Do you fear it will change you?
A: In what way?
R: That I’ll be distant from my friends and my family.
A: That is the secret to your becoming famous. Be close to your friends and family now and you won’t be distant from them when you are famous. If you will notice now is when you are distant from them. Stop that. – V.K.
Q: “When I was so anxious for stardom, so driven, you used to tell me “When the icon is ready the platform appears’. I wanted it now I always wanted it now I didn’t have any patience. You used to say I was learning to be a star by not yet being a star. I was learning balance and compassion and the nature of accessibility. I thought you helped me through tough times on my climb to the top. Now I realize you were teaching me how to be on the top. I have the platform. I am an icon and because of you I know what to do with it. Thank you so much.”
I heard this quote about you from one of your clients. That’s so cool. I want to be a star too. Will you help me? – MN, New York
A: Do your laundry, remember your nieces and nephews on their birthdays, treat everyone you meet with respect including yourself and let the magic come to you. Yes you will be a star then we can begin. -V.K.
Help From High Places
Q: Tell me about suicide. What’s that all about? – GP, Montreal
A: There are several kinds of suicide. It’s not just one phenomenon. It’s individual, on a case-by-case basis. If you are considering suicide I’d like to tell you a story of a client of mine. He had a gun. He had a bottle of Ouzo and he had a major heartbreak. He was going to end it all. In order to get up his courage to use the gun, he drank the whole bottle of Ouzo and fell asleep. He had a dream that he went to the Pearly Gates and St. Peter checked for his name on the clipboard and wouldn’t let him in. St. Peter said it wasn’t his time. My client said, yes it was his time because he committed suicide to get there and St. Peter said, “Suicide. Oh then you’ll just have to go back and do it all again.” My client woke up, put the gun away, never drank Ouzo again and to my knowledge never attempted suicide again.
Whatever you’re experiencing, I wouldn’t recommend suicide as a solution; however, if your loved one has, there’s a gift in it for you. My hope is that you remain open to allow the answer to the ‘why’ question to come to you. First you grieve then you receive. What you will receive is clarity and peace around it. – V.K.
Q: How will I know that I’m really talking to my mother who has passed over? – AW, New York
A: You’ll know because you’re doing the talking. So talk directly to her, not her photograph … to her. You’ll know she’s talking to you because you’ll feel it in your heart. It will be loving and comforting. Talk directly to her; she’ll talk directly to you. Go ahead. Let yourself. – V.K.
Q: I’m so overwhelmed I don’t know what to do. CA, Texas
A: Don’t do … be. Doing is what overwhelm is. Too much doing feels like not enough result so you do more to control it more.
Instead … Be quiet. Be peaceful. Be amazed. – V.K.